The reasons people cheat are varied and complex, duh! Nowadays, women and men cheat at equal rates.
A 2017 study published in the Journal of Sexual Research aimed to shed light on the issue. In it, 495 participants who had cheated on their partners were asked to reveal why.
An analysis of their responses found eight primary reasons:
📌 Anger (for example, “My primary partner had previously been unfaithful”),
📌 Self-esteem (“I wanted to feel better about myself”),
📌 Low commitment (“I was not very committed to my primary partner”),
📌 One-off situational factors (“I was drunk and not thinking clearly”),
📌 Neglect (“my primary partner was emotionally distant, they don’t appreciate or respect me anymore,, I feel like they doesn’t listen to me anymore or take my opinion into account”),
📌 Sexual desire for/growing relationship with the person they cheated with,
📌 Lack of communication in the relationship,
📌A need for sexual variety, and
📌 Lack of love in their primary relationship.
The research found that women tended to have longer affairs on average than men. When someone becomes emotionally invested in a relationship, they are less likely to leave it behind even if it turns sour.
Woman are also more likely to confess the affair to their partners. The reasons for this are not clear, but it could be because women feel guilty or because they want to be honest with their partner.
If there’s an issue with emotional connection—or anything else—in your relationship that you fear could lead to infidelity, the most important thing to do is talk to your partner. Infidelity is a major cause of divorce. If you are in a relationship and fear that infidelity could be an issue, it is important to talk to your partner about it. We all want our relationships to last and for them to be fulfilling. But even the strongest relationships can face challenges that might lead to infidelity or divorce. Talking about these issues can help you find solutions together as a couple and keep your relationship strong.
Get to the bottom of your feelings! Start working with a therapist, they help tremendously to understand what it is you are even feeling – to identify your own desires and frustrations.
Our team wants only the best for our clients, and we hope to help you resolve these difficult situations if the time does come to part ways. Contact us now to discuss your case: 718-769-6352
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