Dating an American man: all the inside information
Many foreign girls dream of meeting the American man of their dreams and being swept off their feet to the US of A. But what’s so special about dating an American?
Well, America is truly the land of opportunity and with hard work people accomplish a lot in U.S., from owning your own spacious home, to travel around the world without a visa with that blue passport.
So, what’s different about dating an American?
EXCLUSIVITY IS MUCH LESS IMPORTANT TO AMERICANS
While in the many countries in the world it’s assumed that if you fancy someone enough to ask them out you’ll only be seeing them and they will be exclusive with you, Americans like dating a few people at once before settling on one to go steady with.
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You may come to find out to your shock that he is talking to you, seeing you and even sleeping with you, while also doing all that with a few other girls.
MEETING THE PARENTS IS A BIG MILESTONE FOR AMERICANS
Asked if you’d like to meet Mom and Dad? If you’re dating an American, congratulations, because you just cleared a major hurdle – American men and women only introduce their partners to their families when things are getting serious.
DATING IN THE US IS MUCH MORE STRUCTURED
For once, it’s the Americans who are more fussed about protocol; there’s tons of unwritten rules about when to call, how many dates make a relationship, and more. In many other countries, it’s more relaxed and there are no rules.
Americans like to create special dating rules and follow them where these rules may not mean anything to a foreign person. It may not be part of your culture.
WHEN IT COMES TO SPECIAL EVENTS, ATTITUDES DIFFER
When a special event rolls around, not having a date is often stressful for American men and women, because the expectation is you show up partnered.
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT DATING AN AMERICAN
They will have so many questions They don’t mean to be rude or nosy, I promise. Americans often go on dates with people they don’t know very well, so it’s natural that they’ll want to change that.
Americans are very open and direct, but sometimes it’s deceiving. They may be smiling without being actually happy. They say they are fine when they aren’t. Americans do not ask how much money you earn or what grade did you get on that test. However, they are quick to talk about their political views and may get very heated about these political topics.
We recommend NOT to discuss politics, abortion and gun rights, and racism with your American date in the early stages of your relationship. With time, you will both feel comfortable to do so, but breach these topics with care.
Americans speak the “American” version of the English language and use many idioms and turns of phrase that may not be familiar to you. In addition, people from different geographic parts of the States speak with “drawls” and use specific dialects to the region they grew up in.
TIPS FOR DATING AMERICAN MEN
As a general rule, American males tend to be louder, more gregarious, and generally more extroverted than foreign men. You may not be familiar with this or find this attractive, but we warned you.
They like football and baseball, sports generally unknown in other parts of the world where futball (soccer) is what everyone is all about.
HOW TO FIND LOVE?
You can meet an American gentleman online (use an app), or in person at a conference or if you are visiting the U.S. Alternatively, he may be visiting your country and you can run into him at a local coffee shop or be introduced by mutual family and friends.
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Don’t let the prospect of cultural differences put you off; opposites do attract, after all. American culture is rich and has really good values – of freedom, high regard for law and individual rights, and for hard work and perseverance. Do not be discouraged and give an American guy a chance. They are usually good and honest people and are accepting of other cultures since we are a country of immigrants after all.
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